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Psalms 86:11 Teach me your way, Lord, that I may rely on your faithfulness;
give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name.

Lust is often stealthy and cunning. Its lure is powerful, and its addictive capacity is a bottomless pit. Lust can take on many forms. These days, with porn just a mouse click away, there’s never been greater opportunity to feed destructive lusts. Everyone is vulnerable, from teens to parents to Christian leaders. The Scriptures warn us (with good reason!) to flee immorality. No good thing will ever come to your life, relationships, marriage, family, or ministry from engaging in lustful behavior.
 Creating people in your mind, viewing pornographic images on the screen, or engaging in immoral sexual behavior only leads to depression, guilt and spiritual bondage.

If you haven’t been caught in lust’s snare, awesome! Keep doing what you are doing, but know that everyone, including you, is vulnerable to lust. If you have been ensnared by lust in any way, shape or form, let me encourage (and challenge) you: involvement with lust isn’t the unforgivable sin. Do your best to flee. God wants to help you. Use accountability tools like those given at and Talk to someone (a pastor or someone you can trust). Help is available. Get help. Know that if you struggle with lust it is a winnable war. You’re not alone, freedom and healing can come if you are willing to humble yourself and follow Jesus’ teaching today.

QUESTION 1. To what extent has lust influenced your life?
QUESTION 2. What practical steps do you need to take to guard yourself and your family from the stealthy and cunning snare of lust?
CHALLENGE: We challenge you to break free from lust’s snare. Talk to someone and be accountable so that lust cannot place you in bondage; but rather, that you may have the healing, freedom and joy that only a relationship with Christ can offer.




Psalm 119:37
Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways.

Our eyes are beautiful gifts from God. They allow us to see God’s imagination come to life through his creation. Our eyes allow us to see where we are going. They allow us to catch or hit a baseball, drive a car or simply watch a movie. Our eyes are at work from the moment we wake up to the moment we close them to go to sleep. They take in amazing amounts of information about the world around us: shapes, colors, movements, and more. Then they send the information to our brain for processing so the brain knows what’s going on outside our body. The eye’s pretty amazing, but as amazing as it is, while our eyes can see the all the good, they can also see the bad. There are many worthless images that our eyes can pick up and send as messages to our brains. The brain then stores this information and tries to decipher it, and much of this information can be violent, pornographic, and dishonoring to God and others. God doesn’t want you to look at worthless images that can hurt you or others, and draw you away from the true freedom and love of Jesus Christ.

QUESTION 1. Are there any images that you are allowing yourself to view that are not God honoring? (e.g. pornography, violence, foul language etc.)
QUESTION 2. Have you asked forgiveness for viewing those things which are not God honoring? What are some steps that you could take to stop viewing those images?
CHALLENGE: We challenge you to take responsibility for the things that you view. Don’t let your eyes look upon worthless things; and receive the freedom and new life that comes from keeping your sights on Jesus.




Matthew 5:29-30

If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”

Sin. This word is so commonly used in the Church that we forget how dangerous sin really is. We have been forgiven and the weight of our sins no longer rests on our shoulders. However, we have been forgiven so we will go and sin no more. Yet so often, we give in to sin, especially when it feels good in the moment. Sex is a tricky kind of sin because it is the only act that is a sin, but eventually becomes acceptable and holy in marriage. Stealing — always a sin. Cheating — always a sin. Lying — always a sin. Murder — always a sin. No other act is a sin until a certain point in your life.

The definition of sin that has stuck with me the most is simply “missing the mark”. It means that God has his best in store for us and sin distracts us or steers us off course. Eventually, we may find ourselves in a whole lot of hurt because we have missed the mark. When I look at it this way, I realize that God isn’t out to torture me by telling me not to do all these things. He gives us freedom to make our own choices, but He also sets some guidelines for us to follow if we want to avoid unnecessary trouble. The choice is yours, and it’s an important one!

When it comes to sex, God wants it to be good! It was created to be an act of worship that bonds a husband and wife in a way nothing else can. However, since sin has entered in, our culture has twisted sex to be something that it’s not. We are missing the mark. Now sex is being perverted from what it was intended to be. Our culture is offering a watered down, cheap version of something meant to be so much better. This is why God encourages us to refrain from all sexual immorality – this includes what you do when no one else is around. This isn’t because God wants to punish you or torture you, but simply because God wants something better for you than anything this world has to offer you.

QUESTION 1. What does our culture communicate about sex, pornography, and masturbation?How does that align with God’s Word on these topics?
QUESTION 2. What are your thoughts and beliefs about sex, pornography, and masturbation? How does that align with God’s Word on these topics?
CHALLENGE: If you find yourself turning to things like pornography or sex to fulfill your own desires, seek out a trusted Christian mentor or leader who can walk with you as you pursue God’s best. Stop settling for cheap imitations of what God created to be better.




Psalm 51:8-10

Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice. Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.

 If you’re like most people, the thought of telling others about a sin you struggle with makes your palms sweaty and your heart race to 160 beats per minute. You can’t even fathom telling your secrets because there is just too much shame and guilt. What if they don’t want to be your friend anymore, or tell other people what you’ve done? The fear and the struggle are real, but I’m here to tell you that once you let the secret out, no matter how painful it is, you’ll experience healing and freedom like you’ve never had before.

The enemy comes only to kill, steal and destroy (John 10:10), he wants your sin to sit in darkness and he wants you to be filled with shame. You’ve got to illuminate the dark areas of your life so that the light can begin to take back the darkness. Tell someone you trust, and who is full of wisdom, about your secret sin. Jesus wants you to be free from whatever sin has a chokehold on you; you just need to let him help. God puts people in our lives who can offer wisdom and counseling, but you need to take the first step and be honest about what is really going on. I promise that once you give your sin over to God and bring it out into the open you will start to heal. It may still be a hard and painful process, but God is with you, empowering you, and so are the people you love and trust. Freedom is completely attainable; step out and take it.

QUESTION 1. What is your secret sin?
QUESTION 2. Why haven’t you sought help from others in the past? Are you scared of what they will think of you?
CHALLENGE: Reach out to those you trust and who God has put into your life and share what is really going on. It may be embarrassing and there may be consequences, but you can’t put a price on the freedom that comes from illuminating it.




1 Corinthians 10:13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

Temptation can be a very difficult thing to deal with in life. In the United States sexual temptation has become not only extremely difficult to overcome but actually glorified. This particular temptation seems to come against us from every direction; through friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, movies, commercials, magazines, etc.

There is good news in all this however, that is, according to the Bible Paul tells us that God is faithful and that he won’t allow us to be tested beyond what we can endure. God does not promise to deliver us from temptation or testing, but He does promise to limit the temptations intensity, and even more so, He promises to provide a way of escape. Next time you feel yourself being tempted, weather by sexual temptation or otherwise, as Karen Mckinny put, Flee! … and know that God always leaves a way of escape.

QUESTION 1. What has been your toughest temptation? How did you deal with it?
QUESTION 2. Have you ever found yourself in sexual temptation (e.g. pornography, friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.)? How did you deal with it?
CHALLENGE: We challenge you to turn to God when you’re being tempted, and to flee from immorality. The next time you’re faced with temptation, remember that God will be faithful to you and will leave room for an escape rout if you focus on him.
NOTE: If you find yourself dealing with sexual temptation please check out the accountability section of site and gain the help you need to overcome it.




1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you face temptation, He will also provide an escape, so that you can stand up under it.

 There was a study conducted last year that found out 77% of Christian men look at pornography at least monthly and about 36% admit to being addicted. Unfortunately, I believe this number to be even higher. Lust is an issue permeating every area of our lives. It is in songs, movies, TV, books, billboards, ads; it is almost everywhere we look. The temptation for men, and women, is running rampart over our lives.

It’s easy to get discouraged and give in because there’s no way we can resist it all in today’s world. And it is true, we can’t; but through the strength of the Holy Spirit, we can. God knew we would face intense temptation; even Jesus was tempted by the devil for 40 days. But God always provides a way of escape.

Next time you’re tempted to give into lust, run. God tells us to flee from temptation (II Timothy 2:22); so get out of there. Go somewhere with other people, ask a trusted friend to talk with you, quote scripture, talk with God, go for a walk. The list of strategies you can implement to help resist temptation could go on and on. Find what works for you; then do it. But above all, be in constant communication with Jesus. Turn your eyes to Him and you’ll find the desires of this world begin to fade.

QUESTION 1. Do lust and sex have a chokehold on you?
QUESTION 2. What strategies do you have in place to resist these temptations?
CHALLENGE: Figure out ways in which you can best resist temptation, and then implement them. Ask God for his strength and turn your eyes to him.
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